sschm Blog 12

I found the topic of money in the family to be very interesting. When looking at my own family, money has also been a cause of tension for the parents and now I understand why. My dad uses money as a security factor and is always saving because when he was growing up his family was always living pay check to pay check. Now that he has money, he needs the large savings to feel comfortable. I think he always can sometimes use it as a source of status, as a means of keeping ahead. For my mother, she prefers to use it as enjoyment. She spends a lot of her money on others, her friends, her children and others she may not know. This frustrates my dad because he sees it as wasting where my mom enjoys making others happy and spending her money doing enjoyable things. I do think that a blend creates balance, but this combination I see as always having constant conflict, and although it has gotten better, they still struggle with the issue of money and what power it has behind it. I think I will want to be with someone who has a combination, but I realize that I need someone who enjoys spending money on enjoyable things that we can do together, where my father does not like.