Thursday, April 2, 2009
sschm Blog 9
When talking about conflict resolution on Thursday, It was so interesting to realize how I have dealt with resolving conflict in my relationships. I was a victim of focusing solely on the content of the fight opposed to the process. I would repeat the same fight over and over again, not understanding why I couldn't be resolved. I had fallen into a pattern of constant ups and downs, but the relationship was incapable of successfully making all the way down. When thinking about fighting, it always has a negative connotation associated with it, and It was interesting to realize that it's not about how intense or how frequent you may have conflict, although constantly may not be healthy, but it's how you resolve and communicate to a level of happiness. It has already helped me when dealing with current conflict in my life. I step back now and watch why I'm creating this conflict and the reasons behind why I need to feel a certain way. It's going to make my relationships more successfully and happier.
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I agree with everything that you have said in you blog. I am a very stubborn person and I feel that I know what’s best all the time. When I fight with my boyfriend I concentrate solely on what started the argument, not how we are fighting. My boyfriend on the other hand is opposite. He always draws attention to myself and how I am behaving in the argument. I then looks at the big picture and calm down. I never know how to resolve a conflict with anyone other than hands-on learning. It was really nice to get professional education and this is something I can help my students with, or at least give them the information I learned and let them do with it what they will
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